I first blogged @ rediffblogs and getting my frist comment there lead to some excitement. I replied to this commentator. I didn't know the rule of blogworld at that time (that every comment should be replied to), so my reply to him was an email and there started a conversation. I dont recollect how and when we became friends. Emails, chats, calls. Thank you my friend, for listening to me even sometimes when I spoke mindlessly. Let me tell you, even you were not sane all the time. Even if we did not contact each other for months at times, January would be the month of remembering you again. Both of us being Jan born and this is the month I finalized whatever little investments I had to do. So because of his accounts background (CA I guess :o), I would sweetly wish him and then seek his help in planning my investments to avoid paying tax. I know he wondered why would I think that he will sit and do the workings for me but he ended up helping. Sweet enough of him :)
Its strange how somebody you have never met or known till then gradually becomes a part of your life. From general chit chat to serious matters of life, we discussed all and worldly gyan was shared or bombarded on each other. I am not sure what he will have to say about it but I liked the bond we had. One reason could be the fact that it was the groom hunt phase for me. It is not easy when you have rejection happening from either side for whatever reasons and if you have someone you can talk to about all that, you value that 'someone' a lot. After maybe a year or 2, I finally found the person I wanted to marry. The progress was being shared constantly with this friend and so was the news. If you have never had a friend who has just found her life partner, lemme tell you she cannot stop talking about him all day to anyone who can lend her a ear.. This guy was subjected to it on regular basis. He often told me to shut up and stop talking like a case gone hopelessly in love. But I went on. I will cut it short ;) I got married, moved to the same city as this blog friend, but before the plan of meeting could materialize, we moved to another city and I have a feeling he disliked that.
I have a bigger circle of virtual friends than real ones but even if I got a chance to meet any of them in person, I have hardly used it. Its nothing to do with them being girls or guys. Its not even about my lethargy... I think I somehow am not as comfortable meeting people as I am in other means of conversations or socializing. One does get little busy when life takes this big turn. Relocation, whole lot of responsibilities and etc etc. All that does leave you with lesser time for many a things that you earlier did. Initially when I was found online late in the evenings, some friends would tease and ask me to logoff and spend time with the husband. And then some would complain that I had no time for friends now. It was strange and I did not think much about how to handle it. As a result now while we are still in touch and connect well whenever we do, its just like once in a blue moon.
Today he is married for 4 months, to a nice girl. He invited us for the wedding but knowing me, he would not have expected to see me even if we were in the same country. But that did never mean I wish any less happiness for the couple. I hope he understands that there are no differences that come up in a friendship due to marriage. Its just that some people are lil bizarre like me.. And you still are a friend..
PS: This post is dedicated to my first blog friend, who has almost stopped blogging and who I wish gets back to it...